"If you could kick the person in the pants responsible for most of your trouble, you wouldn't sit for a month." ~Theodore Roosevelt
Boy, isn't that the truth! It's rather tiresome to hear people sulk and mope about their lives when they are capable of changing it. For example: We hear of criminals blaming their absurd behavior, leading to arrests, etc., on perceived racial prejudices rather than take account for their actions. Blame is quick to fall on another. That tactic may hold up for a short while, but responsibility is eventually inevitable. After all, we are all in charge of ourselves. This seems like a "duh" statement but I'm frequently aghast at the lack of common sense depleting this value.
Why are some so dependent on others for happiness? Why can't we be happy with what we have and strive to work for what is absent? Since when is it customary for basic responsibility to be diverted from oneself and pawned on another? Happiness and responsibility cannot be bought nor provided. They are already inside us. It's up to us to use them wisely and sensibly.